This week’s Dragged and Divine Thought:
"You ever try to force your way forward and end up stuck in the same spot, but more tired? Yeah. Me too."
This week's episode of The Mediocre Black Woman wasn’t the one I planned, but it’s the one that we needed.
I had three entire episode outlines prepped. But nothing was clicking.
I kept rotating, rewriting, resisting and it turns out, that was the episode. The sitting in the fog of indecision with a highlighter trying to find the next step.
So today’s conversation is not about the plan. It’s about the pause.
It’s about what happens when you don’t know what to do next…when you’ve done all the work, checked all the boxes, written 11 pages of content (yes, literally), and still feel off. It’s about learning to recognize the difference between movement and force. Between waiting and surrender.
We get into:
Why “not knowing” makes us itchy as high-achieving Black women
The ancestral guilt of not producing
The surprising ways inspiration arrives when you finally stop chasing
Why pivots aren’t failures, they’re sacred redirections
And how your stillness might actually be the next move
If you're in a season where the clarity isn’t coming, where you’re spiraling between ideas, or where you just feel stuck, this one’s for you.
You’re not broken.
You’re not behind.
You’re just being invited to listen.
Because stillness is sacred. And this, too, is movement.
🎧 Listen now. And if it hits home, share it with your bestie and let them know they’re not alone either.
🖤 P.S. Black Friday Starts July 18
We’re launching a new ritual for The Mediocre Black Woman community: Black Friday (but not the one you’re used to). Every Friday starting July 18 and every Friday after that, we’ll buy Black, consume Black, and pour back into Black-owned businesses, artists, creators, and communities.
If you can’t buy Black, try these instead:
Stay home and cook with friends
Stream Black shows, films, and music
Host a game night or block party
Tip your Black delivery drivers extra
📝 Submit your favorite Black-owned businesses (online or local) via this form. I’ll be trying them out and sharing my favorites.
Let’s shift the energy. Let’s choose our own people. Let’s move forward together.
xoxo,
Goddess Thea
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